Remedy?

Lately I have been the happiest I have been in a long time. All of the things in my life are in the right place. Although there are so many great things around me- there is a couple of events that have taken place within this last week that are truly trying my patience and kindness. I work hard as a coach and could not be more proud of my little team. Although we have not won any league matches this year, they have significantly improved game-by-game and I could not be happier! Of course it is very hard to stay calm and patient at certain times-but I need to remember they are freshman playing at a JV level with no club experience. Again, these girls work their butts off and their progress is truly phenomenal.

Something happened at our game last night that I cannot seem to get over and I have no one I can really vent to without making others insane- so I guess I am writing this for myself and any of you who may read this. Last night, the school we were playing decided to announce the JV team’s players like the Varsity normally gets announced. My girls were so excited- for once everyone would be cheering for them as they always do for everyone else. When this main event started to happen, the first name was called and my player stepped out to wave looking into the crowd at our Varsity team and coach and there was silence. The next name, silence, the last player, silence. All I could hear was my cheering, and the clapping of the girls on my own team. Maybe a clap here or there throughout the audience, but not one Varsity player let alone the coach shared any enthusiasm for these little balls of fire. My heart sank.

After making it a requirement for my girls to stay and watch at least 2 games of Varsity to cheer and see the game at a different level (by the head coach), then don't give that back to them- rediculous. There has not been a game where I could not hear my players from across the gym constantly cheering- sometimes more than they do in their own games. I could not believe it- I was absolutely livid. The look on my team’s face as they ran into our huddle was undesirable. This was supposed to be something fun for them- they are freshman for the most part- and the first time any of them would get to experience that. I cannot get over this act and I don’t know what to do about it.

Yes, it was one act of not cheering- but this happens every game. My little ones say “Are we that bad to where Varsity does not want to cheer for us?” “How come ____ is never positive to us?” All I can do is stress to them how awesome I think they are- but things like that hurt a person. After my girls shag their balls, carry all of the equipment, cheer their butts off- nothing- not one little cheer comes their way. To make it even better- the girls have gotten one thank you from one girl at one game this WHOLE year for shagging their warm-up balls. We have had 9 games… in 9 games- one thank you. What am I supposed to say to that?

There is a lot more added to this, that should probably stay off the internet- but it is absolutely ridiculous and just plain wrong.

Does someone have a remedy for tolerance and patience loss? Mine is running out.